8 Ways To Gain The Confidence You Need To Be An Effective Leader

  1. Don’t expect to be Jack Welch or Steve Jobs immediately – Give yourself time.  Try to be an effective leader 6 months from now.  Set up goals to get there, allow yourself to fail and learn.  Then in 6 months, set more goals. 
  2. Remember, most people like to be led –  Well, not in business school, there everyone wants to lead because they think if they don’t lead every single minute, everyone else will wonder how they ever got admitted.  Butmost people love having someone else tell them what to do, it frees them up to think about other important things. 
  3. Organize organize organize – as a lower-level leader (which I’m guessing is where you’re starting) you will be expected to know simple, boring things like progress, scheduling, managing tasks, assigning tasks, setting up feedback.  Organize yourself first, then organize the team.  
  4. Own the process – If you don’t do this, no one will.  And it’s an easy way to get respect.  Know who people are, make sure meetings run on time, make sure everyone has jobs, design products that help the team work (set up google docs etc.). This can seem like meaningless work, but it allows you to control something, which will give you confidence. 
  5. Motivate others to come up with the answer. Too many people think they, as leaders, need to solve all the issues.  They don’t, they need to create the right environment that nurtures others to solve it.  If your team is smarter than you are, you’re in the right place.  Scary place, but right place. 
  6. Listen , learn, adapt – Read your team, what is working, what is not.  And if they tell you what is and isn’t working, listen, ask questions, don’t take it personally.  Then change and improve.  It is better for everyone.   
  7. Trust in others – Whoever put you where you are, in your MBA, in your leadership post – saw something in you.  It’s there.  People who know people know you can be a leader.  When I first started out, I was nervous.  I saved every positive email I got at work and put them in a folder.  I went back to it time to time and reread them.  Simple ego boost! 
  8. Until you can trust yourself – you will get to a point where this becomes easier.  Take time out to notice when you are doing well.  When something worked.  Things working are much harder to see than things not working.  You won’t get compliments.  But you should read the absence of any issues, as a compliment.   

Finally you’ll get to a point where you think, nothing was f*ked up today!  Yay me!! 

Now, pat yourself on the back, you’re a leader!  Welcome to the club.


 

by Ellen VranaI am Ellen. A former management consultant living in London as a writer. I am a Runcible Goose. It means a silly person.I write about life and people as I see them. We all have a bit of goose in us. I try to find it in everyone. Check out my new website: therunciblegoose.com. Read more at Quora: How Can I Gain The Confidence To Be An Effective Leader